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TATE Publishing Release Date April 14th, 2015

Published March 10, 2015 by lavoniartryon

NOT Another Singles Book
So here you are-Single. Still. Again. And the last thing that you want to hear is what you did to cause it, how God isn’t finished with you yet, or how your boo is just around the corner. You want answers to the same questions we all have. Why am I still Single? What’s wrong with me? Why are all my friends getting married, and I can’t even get a +1? WHEN WILL IT BE MY TURN? These questions amongst thousands of others are plaguing your mind and stealing your contentment.
The Answer: There is nothing wrong with you. God has not forgotten you. If we believe that God has a plan for our lives then we must believe that this plan also involves our Single season. There is no way that an Infallible, Sovereign God can orchestrate and ordain your marriage, but just happen to leave out this huge Single segment, as if it is the black hole on your eternity timeline. Singleness is ordained. It is blessed and it is exactly where God has placed you at this moment. Singleness has its season, allow it to be the sweet aroma of a lifestyle submitted to God’s will.
You are complete alone. Easier said than believed and even harder to understand. Your completeness must come from the only One that can offer it to you. You become a walking toxin when you enter a relationship without this knowledge. If you don’t gain completion from Christ before the relationship, you will end up draining every relationship that you are involved. Seeking completion from a mate puts an unnecessary and unbearable weight on the other partner, because you are expecting them to supply you with something only the One who created you can give. If you don’t take the opportunity to get to know ‘you’ while Single, you will poison every relationship and drain the person you are with, trying to get something that only comes from Christ. Getting to know ourselves is work, but really understanding the good, bad and the complicated in your life is something that you can’t afford not to do. Once you recognize your value and in turn, how much you are worth to God, you will stop allowing cheap representatives to waste your time.
NOT Another Singles Book lives up to its name. This hard-hitting, insightful and at times humorous book written by a self-proclaimed Reformed Serial Monogamist will have you throwing away every negative viewpoint you have heard about Singleness and focusing on fulfilling God’s purpose in it. It is a simple, yet eye-opening view of Singleness as something to get into, instead of a grave sentence to get out of. Singleness has a distinct, designed purpose crafted by the Almighty Author of Time, and this book will jumpstart (or assist you in continuing) your journey in discovering the wonderful things God has in store for this season.
God views Singleness as a time of undistracted devotion unto the Lord; a time that the Lover of your soul can romance and woo you. This is the time that the Redeemer of our souls pursues and overtakes us with a love so pure and so sweet that it compares to nothing else, because we will never experience anything else like it. This is the time that God has set apart for you to work wholeheartedly for His kingdom without earthly distractions. If marriage is ordained for you then it will come, why not enjoy the journey?
NOT Another Singles Book challenges you to combat the notion that something is wrong with you, if you are still Single at 20 or 30 or 40. God has not forgotten you. You are not his car keys or his glasses, you are the precious jewel in His crown and He is enthralled with your beauty. The Father gives good gifts to His children and will withhold no good thing from you. If you desire marriage, yet you are still Single, it’s because this is good for you, even when it doesn’t feel good to you. Let’s journey together…

NO MORE FROGS (Free Indeed)

Published March 9, 2015 by lavoniartryon

Recently, (this is a relative and very loose use of time) but recently nevertheless, I was in what may could have been called a relationship, maybe. For all intents and purposes, I treated it like a relationship. But it wasn’t one. There was no commitment, not on his end. He told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship because he had gone through some hard times in his life and he needed time to really be ready for that type of commitment. And I believed him, and lied to myself to say that I was being supportive and not just silly. If I didn’t have on my ‘Captain Save-a-Man’ pants on, I would have realized that the healing he needed couldn’t come from me. It could and would only be found in Christ. If I didn’t have on my ‘I can fix his broken heart’ glasses on, I would have realized that he would never get that healing, because he had no intention of going to Christ for that healing. He was too much of a ‘man’ to ask for help, so he would never fall on his knees, broken and contrite in spirit before the Healer. So I tried to allow the Jesus in me to be enough. Ouch. It wasn’t. It couldn’t be. My light is simply an extension of The Light. I shine the spotlight on Him, and if those that look to me, can’t see past me to Him, then I am a dim flicker at best.

He only saw me. That’s all he wanted to see. And I then realized that I was back in the ‘potential cycle’ (Read NOT ANOTHER SINGLES BOOK and you’ll understand), but this time I was the one with potential. I wasn’t what he wanted or needed, but I would do. I was a placeholder-someone who he needed at the moment, but never really saw a lifetime with me. If I were really honest with myself, I didn’t see a future with him either, but I had already convinced my friends of how great he was, so I couldn’t give up that easily, right?

Wrong. I could, and I did. I sucked it up and I let him go-in turn, freeing myself. I bit the bullet and told my friends that the knight in shining armor that I had been describing, was really a joker on a mule. Was it hard? Not as hard as wasting time in another useless relationship that would take my focus off my purpose and my prayers from the man that God is truly saving for me.

Why am I choosing to share this with the world wide web? My Pastor, Jeremy Foster- of is preaching a sermon on being Free Indeed. The Lord has been dealing with me so deeply within this series and today during worship, the tears wouldn’t stop flowing. I couldn’t place where they were coming from, until he started preaching. He stated that Integrity, Generosity and Humility were the antidotes to closing doors on satan’s influence.

I know that the enemy is attacking my ministry because it is shaking hell and stirring heaven. So, because of that my character has to be above reproach and my faith, walk and testimony has to be transparent. I share this because I am still in this journey. I am still struggling with loneliness and the foothold that I gave the enemy was to believe the lie that I would have to settle in order to get married. I no longer believe this lie, and it will no longer be passenger along my journey.

I don’t have to settle. I won’t settle. I will receive my exceedingly, abundantly. And I will continue to set ablaze all lies that Singles hear, and combat it with the truth. NO MORE FROGS. My Prince is here.

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