DAY 2: Contentment isn’t a destination…it’s a journey.

Memory Verse: Exodus 13:17 When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them on the road through the Philistine country, though that was shorter. For God said, “If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt.”

PSALM 73: FOCUS 1-3, 21-28

Task: Take the long way today. Go a different longer route home, to work, to church, school- walk a different path to class. Park at the furthest parking spot from the building and walk. Ask God to give you His eyes to see what He would show you. What does God  reveal to you today?

Many Single people struggle with contentment. What does it mean to be content in Christ? How can you be content with Christ while you still wholeheartedly long for a mate? Am I telling God He’s not enough for me because I desire marriage so strongly? These (or some variation of them) are the questions that many Singles go to bed with at night, and still wake up with no answer. I’ve learned that what we actually perceive as silence, is often the answer to our prayer.

Trust Me.                                                        

The Words are whispered to our hearts so softly that if we aren’t careful, the shouting of our own desires will drown them out. God wants us to trust Him, WITH EVERYTHING, including (especially) our desire to be married. When God is silent, it’s not because He isn’t there. God speaks even in the silence, when you can’t see His face, feel His heart, or even discern His will- Trust HIS Purpose.

Jeremiah 29:11 (this will be a memory verse later on in this challenge) says that ‘I know the thoughts that I think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end.’ Even when He doesn’t seem to speak you are still on His mind, and remember He is BUSY with your every step (Psalm 37:23)

When the Israelites were released from Egypt, God lead them the long way, because He knew their hearts, they weren’t strong enough to face war yet.

Delay is not Denial. God recognizes that it takes longer to get Egypt out of us than to get us out of Egypt. You may be physically out of that last relationship, last sin, last misstep, but in your mind-you’re still there. There are certain habits and issues that you are still dealing with that God can’t allow you to take into your promised land. So because He is a God of movement- He will take us on a detour to get to where we need to go, while He works that Egypt mentality out of us.

Delays are for our benefit, not for our harm. Use this journey to find contentment through preparation, tests and training. Allow God to prepare you for marriage-if that’s in His will for you. And if it’s not, then this preparation will enable you to be a better Single souled out for His glory.

God knew that the Israelites would have run back into their slave situations if they saw even the prospect of war, because they still had the slave mindset. You may not be ready yet for that. You may not be strong enough to stand and fight, so God wants to lead you around it. It will take longer but there is so much beauty in the journey that you might never see if you just rush into a relationship.

What are your Egypt mentalities that God is using Singleness to prune out of you, so that you will be complete and made perfect, lacking nothing (James 1:4)? What old habits (sexual immorality, lust, anger, greed, idolatry, selfishness) are you still struggling with that God won’t allow to pollute the Promised Land of marriage?

God honors and protects marriage-because it is a direct symbolism of Christ and the Church. If you aren’t making a very good church right now as a lady- and men, if you don’t even resemble Christ- you are not ready. Stay in the journey and learn what you need and then when it’s God’s time…walk into your Promised Land-whatever it may be.

30 Day Singles Challenge


At times this can seem like a 4 letter word to ourselves and when we explain to someone else that we ‘have it’…

Have any of you heard the response: ‘Oh…you’re SINGLE? Oh, ok. Well, just keep waiting, they will come’.

So, that’s what we do. We wait. And we wait. Then we wait some more. Until, hopefully, one day we wake up and decide to ask the determining question: WHAT am I waiting for? In that question, I believe is our freedom to enjoy this time. When we begin to look at our lives and decide that ‘waiting’ requires action, then we will start to look for those things that we should be doing in this time.

The Bible says: ‘The steps of a good man are directed and established by the Lord when He delights in his way (and He busies Himself with his every step) Psalm 37:23. This scripture is so rich because it reminds us that our lives are being orchestrated by the Author and Perfector of our Faith. Our steps are ordered and directed and established by the Lord Himself, meaning that we can’t have a ‘misstep’ or a ‘mistake’ or an ‘oops’ without Him already knowing about it, and having a plan in place to work it out for our good in the end (Romans 8:28). When He (big H denotes perfect Lord) delights in his (little h denotes imperfect man) way, He will busy Himself with his EVERY step. This Word brings tears to my eyes when I realize that the Creator of the universe will busy HIMSELF around my life. That is mind-blowing to imagine that He cares that much about me. So the very least that I can do is offer up my life as a sacrifice to Him (Romans 12:1-2).

So if every step is ordained because we are living a life that is striving to please Him daily, then He Himself ORDAINED our Singleness. That puts a different spin on it. Whether you are single with no prospects, single and dating, exclusively in a relationship but not yet engaged, or even engaged to be married- you are still single…and you are right where God is ordaining you to be. You are in His will at this moment, which is the safest and sweetest place to be.

But, let’s be honest…sometimes it doesn’t feel sweet. Sometimes it is downright awful…and lonely…and tiring…and sad. Trust me, I know. I’ve been there and I still have those days, but they have become fewer and fewer because I have now realized that I am in His will-so even when it’s not good, it’s WORKING for my good. And that makes it worth it. There is beauty in DESIRING to stay in God’s will even when we don’t understand it or even desire the path that we are on. We desire His will for our lives more than we desire our comfort or the plan that we believe we should be living. Rest in that. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. God hasn’t forgotten you, nor can He misplace you because He is busy with ordering your every step. You are not His keys, or His eyeglasses- you are the beautiful jewel in His crown, the Heir to His righteousness, worthy of trading His son’s perfect life for your imperfect one. He’s got you. Chill out.

So that brings us to this 30 day Singles Challenge and I am probably more excited about it than you are. God is going to reveal so much to us about His will for our lives and His plan for this ordained stage in our journey.

My only requirement is that you pray and open your heart to what God has to say to you. Even if you don’t think that a particular day applies to you, meditate on it, I believe that God is going to share something fresh with you each day.

All 30 days will include a brief devotional, a key scripture to memorize, a Psalm to read, and a challenge or task to do or evaluate about your life. Some may be new to you, and some may just be confirmation of a Word that the Lord has already given you.

This challange will be done on several channels for your convenience:

 twitter: @mysingleseason

Facebook: LaVonia Tryon

 Book Fan Page: NOT Another Singles Book


 weekly updated on my Youtube: @NOTAnotherSingle

Please invite your friends, family and anyone that can benefit from a Word from the Lord (which is everyone) to join us. This Challenge is geared towards Singles, but if you are married-I still believe that God has a Word for you in it as well. ALL ARE WELCOME!

Are you ready to experience the fullness of this unique Season in your life?

Please share your comments, stories, victories and trials throughout this Challenge. This study will be compiled into a FREE book at the end and I would love for your testimony to be shared in it.

Let’s go!

#journeyingtogether… #30daySingle… #NASBook…

Journeying Together…

LaVonia R. Tryon is an Author, Entrepreneur, Public Speaker, and Motivator. A dynamic speaker and session leader, La Vonia is known to captivate her audience with creative and vivid examples as well as humorous crowd interactions.

Professionally she holds a Master’s in Rehabiliative Counseling Psychology and is a Certified Rehabilitation Counselor specializing in Disability Advocacy, Career Services and Educational Consulting.

This multi-faceted woman can’t just be categorized in the professional spectrum for Counseling and Psychology services, for she has taken her professional acumen and coupling with her spiritual discerment-has authored a Singles book ‘NOT Another Singles Book’ as well as it’s accompaning journal ‘Get ‘N BEFORE You Get Out’.

She is the Founder of Healing Hands of HOPE, Inc.- an organization dedicated to developing a common vision, shared goals and coordinated strategies among school districts, community service agencies, families, employers and others to provide optimal services and outcomes for individuals with disabilities.

La Vonia is also a Public Speaker and Owner of But-i-FLY Ministries-a Movement dedicated to transforming peoples’ perspectives; giving them the courage to not just get through life- BUT-to-FLY through it, rising to all that God has called them to be.

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