In today’s dating environment, us Singles can fall into the trap of thinking and believing that there are no good men/women left. If you would take the time to think about it, that thought process doesn’t even make sense. No one goes looking for a treasure that they don’t believe exists. In the same way, if you truly believed there weren’t any ‘good’ or ‘suitable’ mates available, then you would hang up your Red Bottoms and/or Tims and check yourself out of the game. But nope, none of us are doing that. We are still putting ourselves out there – hoping, praying, wishing to find the elusive one.
What if I told you that there was a better way? What if it was as easy (easy as in the only person you have to worry about is yourself) becoming the right person instead of looking for the right one?
What you talkin’ bout, Willis?
I know but hear me out. We all have a list, right? Whether it’s written in our journal, saved on our hard drive, or etched in our brains, we have a list of preferences and standards that we desire in our future mates. Some of the things on there are valid – God-fearing, respectful, trustworthy – and some of them are a bit more preferential and surface – over 6ft, cute in the face & thick in the waist 😉, but it’s our list and I’m not here to tell you to get rid of it.
Yep you heard right, you can keep your list. I know this is different, because I’ve been told in the past that my list of hardfast preferences could be causing me to miss out on some good potentials. Now that will be a separate blog, but for now, let’s hold on to the list as a point of reference. I want you to take out your current list of preferences, standards, non-negotiables and give it a good look. Is everything on there still valid? Do you need to update it? If so, take a moment and do so.
You back? Good.
Now, I want you to take your list and evaluate YOURSELF by that list. Gasp! *Jump back in shock for good measure*. Me? Yep, you. If someone of the potential persuasion approached you with your exact same list, would you make the cut? Hmmm…food for thought, right?
Sometimes we are looking for someone that isn’t looking for us. Amen and ouch. Are you the person that the person you are looking for, is looking for? Read that again and let it sink in.
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*Disclaimer – this is not an interview nor should these questions be asked on a first date or with someone that you aren’t seriously committed to or considering a long-term relationship. All questions are not applicable to all situations*