On the 6th Day of MISSMas, I gave to me the gift of … The Corona Chronicles.
As I decided to write this post, I realize that COVID truly has changed everything. Here in the United States, many officials and official sources have encouraged us to postpone or cancel all together our holiday gatherings due to the rising COVID-19 cases. Which will affect our holiday plans, no matter who you are.
No one believed that starting 2020, we would be ending it the way that we are. It has been almost 11 months since we have gone into some level of shut down and the things that we took for granted, like going into the grocery store or to the gym, have become foreign to us. No matter what stream of thought you ascribe to, Coronavirus has affected your life in some way. Many people have lost jobs, had to share Wi-Fi with teleworkers and kids doing homeschool, gained weight, lost weight, read a book, wrote a book and many other numerous things that we never had the time to do before March.
As Singles, one thing is clear, COVID has made us hyper aware of our Singleness. We have probably spent more time alone than we have in the past, and it may have been a struggle to really understand being comfortable alone without being overwhelmed with a sense of loneliness. This is a fine art and not one that is easily mastered. We spend so much of our time being busy instead of productive that being forced to slow down and spend time with ourselves, either gave us time to be introspective and do some internal work, or it made us extremely uncomfortable in our own skin; in our own homes. Hopefully, you are the former and you have used this time to fall more in love with yourself and really hone into your purpose. But if you are in the later and this pandemic has been particularly hard on you, my prayer is that these 12 Days of MISSMas bring you hope and a different outlook. I would love to connect with you more and walk you through the beautiful journey that is Singleness. Please connect with me at lavonia@lavoniartryon.com to book a free coaching call. No one should be Single alone.
As Coronavirus changes the way we view the world and each other, we have choices. We can choose to be defeated and accept that we will be alone forever unless the Amazon delivery person is really cute, or we can turn our focus off of the one thing that we think we are missing and focus on everything that we do have. As Singles, we often rock our own contentment boat by focusing on the wrong things, and not keeping the main thing – the main thing. As a Single, during a global pandemic you have a unique advantage that many people don’t have. No distractions, or at least less than your married counterparts.
For the Singles without children – how are you spending your time? Since the social life has either diminished or at least changed shapes, what productive activities have you added that will cause multiplication in your life? Have you been able to build your savings account? Are you focused on your health and wellness and you’ve finally started to use that home gym that has been collecting dust in your garage? Have you built your career and professional resume? Started a business? Picked up a hobby? Learned a new language? Wrote a book? Read a book? This list isn’t meant to make you feel like you haven’t done enough, in fact it was created for just the opposite. You have a unique opportunity in this time to come out better than you went it. Don’t waste it on Netflix binges.
For the Singles with children – I can only imagine some of the stress that you may be under. Especially if you must homeschool your kid(s), work, take care of the household and have any expectation to bathe that day as well. Although I can’t personally relate to your struggle, I can speak to your strength. You got this, sis. You are making a difference, brother. Your children will rise up and call you blessed. Reach out to your support system. If you have someone that is ‘in your bubble’ – meaning someone that you have either quarantined with or that is in a safe environment who can babysit for a bit, take advantage of it. We are a nation and a generation that has this aversion to asking for help. I want to call you out on that and call that out of you. It’s not strength to struggle when there is help available; it’s pride. Use your village so that you can get some time for yourself to recharge and reconnect with you – the you that is enhanced not hindered by the unique experiences that you have been trusted with as a Single parent. Get creative. Even if you can’t physically get to someone, I had a friend that gave the suggestion of doing a Zoom call with her friend’s kid so that she could go take a long bath. Technology is wonderful, and I’d love to see the LEGO castle that your child has built or to read them a book, so I’m sure that you have someone in your community who would love to as well. Show yourself strong and reach out.
COVID-19 Changes Everything
As I decided to write this book, I realized that COVID truly has changed everything. Here in the United States, many officials and official sources have encouraged us to postpone or cancel all together our holiday gatherings due to the rising COVID-19 cases. This book isn’t a political or health stance, and I offer no opinion or advice about either route, I only plead that whatever you choose to do that you stay safe. And that you think beyond yourself and think about those vulnerable around you as you make the best decisions for you and your family.
No one believed that starting 2020, we would be ending it the way that we are. It has been almost 10 months since we have gone into some level of shut down and the things that we took for granted, like going into the grocery store or to the gym, have become foreign to us. No matter what stream of thought you ascribe to, Coronavirus has affected your life in some way. Many people have lost jobs, had to share Wi-Fi with teleworkers and kids doing homeschool, gained weight, lost weight, read a book, wrote a book and many other numerous things that we never had the time to do before March.
As Singles, one thing is clear, COVID has made us hyper aware of our Singleness. We have probably spent more time alone than we have in the past, and it may have been a struggle to really understand being comfortable alone without being overwhelmed with a sense of loneliness. This is a fine art and not one that is easily mastered. We spend so much of our time being busy instead of productive that being forced to slow down and spend time with ourselves, either gave us time to be introspective and do some internal work, or it made us extremely uncomfortable in our own skin; in our own homes. Hopefully, you are the former and you have used this time to fall more in love with yourself and really hone into your purpose. But if you are in the later and this pandemic has been particularly hard on you, my prayer is that this mini-book brings you hope and a different outlook. I would love to connect with you more and walk you through the beautiful journey that is Singleness. Please connect with me at lavonia@lavoniartryon.com to book a free coaching call. No one should be Single alone.
As Coronavirus changes the way we view the world and each other, we have choices. We can choose to be defeated and accept that we will be alone forever unless the Amazon delivery person is really cute, or we can turn our focus off of the one thing that we think we are missing and focus on everything that we do have. As Singles, we often rock our own contentment boat by focusing on the wrong things, and not keeping the main thing – the main thing. As a Single, during a global pandemic you have a unique advantage that many people don’t have. No distractions, or at least less than your married counterparts.
For the Singles without children – how are you spending your time? Since the social life has either diminished or at least changed shapes, what productive activities have you added that will cause multiplication in your life? Have you been able to build your savings account? Are you focused on your health and wellness and you’ve finally started to use that home gym that has been collecting dust in your garage? Have you built your career and professional resume? Started a business? Picked up a hobby? Learned a new language? Wrote a book? Read a book? This list isn’t meant to make you feel like you haven’t done enough, in fact it was created for just the opposite. You have a unique opportunity in this time to come out better than you went it. Don’t waste it on Netflix binges.
For the Singles with children – I can only imagine some of the stress that you may be under. Especially if you must homeschool your kid(s), work, take care of the household and have any expectation to bathe that day as well. Although I can’t personally relate to your struggle, I can speak to your strength. You got this, sis. You are making a difference, brother. Your children will rise up and call you blessed. Reach out to your support system. If you have someone that is ‘in your bubble’ – meaning someone that you have either quarantined with or that is in a safe environment who can babysit for a bit, take advantage of it. We are a nation and a generation that has this aversion to asking for help. I want to call you out on that and call that out of you. It’s not strength to struggle when there is help available; it’s pride. Use your village so that you can get some time for yourself to recharge and reconnect with you – the you that is enhanced not hindered by the unique experiences that you have been trusted with as a Single parent. Get creative. Even if you can’t physically get to someone, I had a friend that gave the suggestion of doing a Zoom call with her friend’s kid so that she could go take a long bath. Technology is wonderful, and I’d love to see the LEGO castle that your child has built or to read them a book, so I’m sure that you have someone in your community who would love to as well. Show yourself strong and reach out.