Memory verse: Multiply there, do not decrease. Seek the welfare of the city (season) I have sent you to. Pray to the LORD on its behalf, for when it has prosperity, you will prosper. Jeremiah 29: 6b-7
Challenge: Take your age (your real one not what you tell everybody 😉 and write out that many things that the Lord has used you to accomplish or accomplished in you.
In honor of my turning 29 again for the first time, let’s talk about age. The age of Viability is the medical threshold of which a fetus should be able to survive outside of the womb. This is the safe zone that most pregnant families and doctors breathe a bit easier because the baby has such a greater chance of survival if the baby has to be born prematurely. Spiritually, Paul speaks of the Age of Accountability in Romans 7 as the age that he became aware of his sinful nature and His need for a Savior. At that point, he had to choose to accept Christ or continue to live his ‘life of death’.
I believe both of these ages can be translated figuratively into our Singleness. Now stay with me. The age of Viability is when we start to realize that we can survive, and not only survive but that we have thrived in some areas alone. It is at this time that we recognize and start living in our freedom to be used wholeheartedly by God without the strings of a family. This is in no way degrading the beauty of marriage, but it is a recognition of the wonder that is Singleness. It is a ‘coming into yourself’ stage. We should all aspire to get to this point, to discover all the treasures that God has for us in this time. Have you reached your age of Viability yet? Have you acknowledged what you can and have accomplished as a Single and set the path for what you still want to accomplish in this season? If not, today seems like a good day for it.
INSIGHT: Really make that list! It will change your perspective to know that the Lord has accomplished so many in and thru your life. At the age of viability you realize that you are sincerely enjoying this time as a Single. It’s a time of only stressing about your own demands, meeting your goals, chasing your dreams. Really enjoy this time-it’s all yours!
The age of accountability for Singleness is that time that you start taking responsibility for your Single state. It’s when you realize that you have been in some great relationships that could have lead you to the alter, but for whatever reason they didn’t. So now you realize that Singleness has now become your choice. For some it’s because you have more that you want to accomplish as a Single before you get married. For others, it’s because you refuse to settle for anyone other than ‘the one He kept for you’, so you wait. Your choice is to stay in God’s will and it’s not your time for marriage so you choose to build and grow in the season that you are in (Jeremiah 29).
This is a beautiful place. Grow here. Thrive here, and you will realize as you take responsibility for this season and what you do and don’t accomplish, you will either move into your next season with more than you came in with, or you will leave empty and wishing you would have chosen to live in this time.